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15 Things Every Young Man Should Know

Recently in our Facebook Group: The Conversation…Continued, we were discussing whether or not we should include discussions about children into our forum. On top of that, we also were talking about the issues that men and women face in relationships and what books and other things have helped us to refocus and think about ourselves. I of course posted about what I felt was a great book and also suggested that others read it. That book was Visions for Black Men by Dr. Na’im Akbhar.  Great book, simple to read and understand and does a wonderful job of illustrating the phases of manhood. I will not insult Dr. Akbhar nor his book by going into detail, but for all of you parents as well as non-parents that want a better understanding of some of the things that go into male growth, it is a great book to have.

In honor of school starting or about to start, I felt it only right to give young men some word therapy for their minds with this article.  So here it is:

15 Things Every Young Man Should Know

  1. You cannot expect to be successful in life without hard work.
  2. No matter what your higher power is, know it and be able to call upon it at anytime.
  3. Realize that the best is yet to come.
  4. As you dress is as you are seen through the eyes of others. Pull your pants up.
  5. Keeping it real is not an excuse to be rude.
  6. Life is just like clothing and music. What was old yesterday will be new once again. Embrace old school thinking in some forms.
  7. Always, always, always, respect your elders and authority.
  8. Understand the difference between an associate and a true friend.
  9. Do not go through life expecting to receive fairness. Life is NOT fair at times.
  10. Education is your ticket to a better life.
  11. Women are not bitches and hoes and you would not want anyone calling your mother that. Expect the best from a woman in order to receive the best.
  12. Take the time out to research your ancestry. Knowing what you are helps you to be who you are.
  13. Do something different than what all your friends are doing. It will help to set you apart from the rest.
  14. No matter where you come from; it is where you are headed that matters most.
  15. Love yourself better than anyone else can. That way you know what love is and can pass it on to others.
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Richard 'BigRich' Evans

Richard 'BigRich' Evans

With nearly 20 years of experience in juvenile justice, public speaking, youth and young adult coaching and intervention, Richard 'BigRich' Evans' brand of straight talk has touched thousands.


  1. Cheryl Vallie
    August 23, 2011 at 10:28 AM

    Brother you are so right on many issues. Keep putting it out there. Somebody’s listening. Love Ya!!!

  2. Tamekia
    August 23, 2011 at 10:51 AM

    Love it!

  3. keidra
    August 25, 2011 at 10:29 AM

    i’m glad you posted this. I believe this is the type of “good stern talking to” our boys need these days. But more so, they need to see a real man do REAL things!!! Great Job!!

  4. Richard BigRich Evans
    August 27, 2011 at 5:31 PM

    Thank you so much.

  5. Richard BigRich Evans
    August 27, 2011 at 5:32 PM

    Thanks sis.

  6. Richard BigRich Evans
    August 27, 2011 at 5:32 PM

    Thank you Mekia.