Marriage & Couplehood

A Case of the Mundane Relationship (pt. 1)

After watching Sex and the City 2 for the umpteenth time, I couldn’t help but to study one of my favorite couples and compare their challenges to other relationships. I’m all the way Team Carrie! In the movie, Carrie was finding herself feeling uneasy about how her marriage to Big was playing out. Within two years, Big was becoming very comfortable with the everyday routine of going to work and coming home to watch T.V.—right after grabbing take-out food for the second or third night in a row. Carrie with her outgoing, fun-spirited personality was starting to feel that they were becoming a little too—as she puts it—“Mr.  & Mrs. married.”

I could truly understand her concern. Carrie was afraid of becoming the “old” married couple who lie around in the bed and watching T.V. every night without talking to each other. To her, it was becoming a case of the mundane relationship. She hinted to Big that they would have to work on the “sparkle” in their marriage so that their love wouldn’t become stale or predictable like the takeout dinners.

The same concept rings true off screen. In our relationships, we must find a way to break outside of growing complacent and add some spice to our lives. If marriage is work (as I often hear and believe), why not find yourself working on the areas that will add life and some bedazzle to the love that you will be forever creating? Being married doesn’t have to be a traditional relationship where the hustle and bustle of everyday life interferes with what made you fall in love in the first place. Like Carrie, I too found myself desiring to add sparkle not only on the weekends, but during the other five days of the week. Although, most couples wait until “TGIF” to glam up their relationships, we must find time to spice up the love life with a little twinkle every now and then.

To be continued…

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Lakia Brandenburg

Lakia Brandenburg

Lakia is an accomplished writer and educator with a heart for love and relationships. She's written for Gospel Today and has freelanced for top national magazines such as Upscale. Creating a happily ever after story to be your reality.