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A New Year, A New Vow

Every January 1st millions of people make promises to better their lives. From joining the gym and losing weight, to quitting a bad habit or starting a new venture, motivated celebrators find hope in starting over with a clean slate. But for a married couple my question is…now what? I remember when I was finally able to flash my ring, proudly declaring, “I’s married now.” But after the shine from your princess cut fades, what’s the next phase in life for you and your spouse? The New Year is a great opportunity to re-direct the course of your marriage. And with a new vow that will enhance your journey as husband and wife, this could be the start of your best years to come.

Many husbands and wives have probably forgotten the vows they made when they first professed, “I Do.” In my eyes, marriage should be a powerhouse. I truly believe that a man and woman are joined together for more reasons other than to start a family, purchase a luxury house and car, and have a fairytale ending. The real happily ever after comes when you make a vow to fulfill your purpose and dreams as a dynamic duo.

Since you’ve been married, what goals have you accomplished together? What do you still want to do? I challenge you in this upcoming year to dare to dream…and dream BIG! This year, make a vow to create the life that will add refreshing new energy to your marriage. Regardless if you want to start a business together, develop a healthier relationship, live out a childhood dream, or become world travelers, not even the sky is the limit when you make this year’s resolution of pure marital bliss a reality.

1. Develop a Plan. Before you married, you developed a strategic plan to come together to eventually live as husband and wife. The same enthusiasm used to create the-fairytale-for-a-day wedding should be duplicated to set goals that will propel your marriage into another realm of success. Begin to dream again and think big. Within a week, decide what your major goals are for the year and write them down.

2. Believe in Your “I Do.” With your goals written, you have to believe it can happen. There is so much power in believing that whatever you’ve planned to accomplish will come to fruition. Think back to your wedding day. As you stared into each other’s eyes and made your vows, didn’t you believe in the words that were being recited? Using the same approach, believe that the goals you set will be met. As a couple, read over your goals daily and begin to feel the excitement of seeing a dream come true now.

3. Take Action. Now that your goals are recorded, a strategic plan is developed, and you truly believe that you will achieve what’s ahead, start taking action immediately. Be committed to your promise. Through your actions, be supportive of each other in the quest of achieving your goals. Within due time, you’ll be tossing confetti and making a toast to a very, very happy new year.

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Lakia Brandenburg

Lakia Brandenburg

Lakia is an accomplished writer and educator with a heart for love and relationships. She's written for Gospel Today and has freelanced for top national magazines such as Upscale. Creating a happily ever after story to be your reality.