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All Talk…No Action?

I got a little taste of my own medicine with this one.  How often do you say you are going to do something and end up not doing it?  It is probably quite often and you don’t even realize it occurs.  Think about it like this, once you say I’m going to wash the dishes or wash the car, if you don’t do it right at that moment, you may forget to do it.  Or you may push off doing it at another time or another day.

Now let’s bring it even closer to home.  How many times have you said you were going to do that special thing for your spouse and ended up not doing it? … not even coming close to doing it.  What’s the reasoning?  Do you purposefully not do it?  I would hope not.  While you have great intentions to do what you said you would do, you just might forget.  Many times this may lead to your significant other getting extremely pissed.

What’s the potential solution to correct this?  If it comes down to it, you may have to start writing it down.  This will allow you to take action on your words and get away from that forgetful mode that we sometimes seem to fall into.

Let me share with you something that I recently did with my wife.  Over 7 years ago, I stood before my wife and recited my vows to her.  Guess what?  I didn’t write them down.  Shortly after our 7th year of marriage, I decided to write down my vows to my wife.  I wrote them down, typed them out, and then presented them to my wife to ensure we both understood what I am vowing to her.

What has this done for me?  This has given me a tangible document of my words that I can use to make sure I am doing the things I told my wife I will do.  Because I printed the vows out, which now reside in a frame in our bedroom, I can revisit them at any time to review what I promised I would do as a husband.  There’s no need for talking a good game now … I have to take action now.

While this was something I specifically did in regards to reestablishing my vows to my wife, this same exercise can be done with any portion of your relationship with your spouse.  It can be done for daily, weekly, monthly, or yearly activities.  So go ahead and start writing your words down.  Once you see it on paper, you will be more inclined to take action and get it done.

Love hard and love true.  Let us know your thoughts.

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Cedric and Christel Wells

Cedric and Christel Wells

Cedric and Christel chose to join their lives together on March 6, 2004. Over these seven years, they have endured obstacles that many married couples go through…learning the hard/easy ways to grow and strengthen their bond.