12 Jun 2012

My Wife Is A Shopaholic, HELP!

Ok Mr. YBMM (Young Black & Married Man), My wife & I are always getting into arguments, I mean ALWAYS, because she will not stop spending money! I’m like seriously, what is your problem? I think she is truly addicted to spending money. She claims a lot of time she’s

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07 Sep 2011

Why Doesn’t My Boyfriend Listen To Me?

Dear Young Black Married Man: Simply put, my man doesn’t listen to me. I mean literally! I’ll tell him something and ask what do you think & he’s like what, what did you say. Other examples include me asking him to pick something up at the store, & when he

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31 Aug 2011

I’m KEEPING My Cookies Until Marriage!

Dear Young Black Married Man: My issue is good & bad… I’m actively out dating, but refuse to have sex until I’m married. It’s just the principal that I was raised on & I don’t just want to give my cookies to every little boy that comes along. I think

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22 Aug 2011

In LOVE & Afraid: Will The 4th Time Be The Charm?

Dear Young Black Married Man: I’ve been exclusively dating my soul mate for 11months now. I’m 37, so by now I’ve dated many times before, but this time feels so different & so right, because she’s the ONE! She’s perfect, everything I want in a woman she has & she

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18 Aug 2011

My Girlfriend is Cheating On Me (with Facebook)

Dear Young Black Married Man, My girlfriend who lives w/ me is ALWAYS on the computer chatting w/ her friends, FaceBooking, Tweeting, etc. She’s even doing it as we’re falling asleep. Sometime I feel like I’m in a three way relationship, because I have to share time with the computer/smart

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06 Aug 2011

My Boyfriend Still Lives With His Ex!

Dear Young Black Married Man: I’ve been dating this guy for a few weeks now and from the beginning he was upfront & honest about the fact the he and his wife are in the process of getting a divorce b/c it’s just not working out. No serious dysfunction or

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30 Jul 2011

He Didn’t Tell Me He Has Kids

Dear Young Black Married Man, I need your help! You talked a little bit about my situation in your last blog, but I want to get more specific with my problem. So I have a rule not to date a man w/ a kid. Of course I’ve been dating this guy

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25 Jul 2011

I’m In Love With TWO Women….HELP!!

When it comes to relationships, there is no shortage of questions or answers.  BLF Blogger and professional journalist Mr. Shannon Lanier puts his skills to the test with his column ‘Ask a Young Black Married Man’. Dear Shannon, what did I get myself into? Simple story, I fell in love w/

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16 Jul 2011

Is 150k Too Much To Ask?

When it comes to relationships, there is no shortage of questions or answers.  BLF Blogger and professional journalist Mr. Shannon Lanier puts his skills to the test with his column ‘Ask a Young Black Married Man’. “When looking for Mr. Right, is it wrong of me to have a very strict

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16 Jul 2011

Should I Call Off My Wedding?

When it comes to relationships, there is no shortage of questions or answers.  BLF Blogger and professional journalist Mr. Shannon Lanier puts his skills to the test with his column ‘Ask a Young Black Married Man’. “I’m really in love with my fiance, but I don’t get along with his family. 

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