05 May 2015

Dating In The ATL: The Good, The Bad And The Unbelievable

So what’s it really like to date in Atlanta as a woman in her 40’s? It varies. The vast majority of the dates I’ve been on have been disastrous. I’ve been on dates with all kinds of men in an effort to figure out if I can be flexible in

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25 Mar 2015

Understanding Turbulence

This article begins a series of articles from guest bloggers as they chronicle their journeys in life. The series will include journeys in health and wellness, life and love, happiness, poverty to prosperity and many others.  Our first guest blogger is Staci Cash from Houston, TX as she “sets the

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18 Mar 2015

Our 5 Favorite Inspirations From New York Fashion Week 2015

Now that the Mercedes Benz Fashion Week in New York City (#NYFW) has taken down their elaborate runways and fashion connoisseurs have jetted back home, let’s take a look back at several moments that gave us so much life this year:   Naomi Campbell slaying in Zac Posen. Naomi Campbell is the

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08 Jan 2015

BLF Fashion: Interview with Marissa Kendrick, Founder and CEO of Deleay Lashay

Many in the fashion industry ask and get asked: what’s in a name? Actually, a lot. If you have a brand you have the opportunity to make it greater than average by creating art and making impact in your sphere of influence and beyond. At the age of 25, Gary,

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12 Dec 2014

Six Steps To Gaining A Healthy Financial Relationship (Part 3)

Last Friday we discussed steps 3-4 to gaining a healthy financial relationship. Today we conclude with steps 5-6. Step 5: Establish a routine time to sit down and discuss your finances Life is full of ups and downs and changes. It is important to recognize the importance of setting up

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08 Dec 2014

Winter Fashion For Women: How To Look Stylish In The Cold

The colder months are upon us, and if you live in a chilly place like I do in Chicago, the winter can get drab fashion-wise. Even though the weather can be brutal, you don’t have to look that way. Below are several options for you to keep warm and stay

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05 Dec 2014

Six Steps To Gaining A Healthy Financial Relationship (Part 2)

Last Friday we discussed Step 1-2 of the Six Steps to Gaining A Healthy Financial Relationship. Today, we continue with Steps 3-4. Step 3: Learn to control emotions Emotions do exist, so it is often a challenge for most to put emotions aside or at least channel them when discussing

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28 Nov 2014

Six Steps To Gaining A Healthy Financial Relationship

One of the biggest predictors of a relationship coming to a gridlock and subsequently ending in contempt is a couple not figuring out how to nurture their financial relationship. Money has been known to be associated with conflict and problems. In fact, there are many common sayings about money that

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30 Oct 2014

An Awakened Mindset

If you haven’t been watching lately, you may not know that Black love and Black relationships are supposed to be in an overall state of decline. If you have been watching, you already know that Black love and relationships aren’t the only things in decline. The deterioration of the family

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28 Apr 2014

Have We Become Racially Ambivalent?

By now most of you have heard the nearly nine minute long taped recording of Donald Sterling giving an emotional and racist rant to his side chick that was reported by TMZ earlier last week. In it he states that he does not want her bringing black people to his

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19 Feb 2014

The Truth About Side Pieces

Being that Valentine’s Day just passed and for the past two weeks I have seen and heard a constant barrage of information about “side chicks”, I felt it was rightfully time for a man to actually speak out about side pieces. Now sit still and hold on tight because what

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14 Jun 2013

Drama Queen Rehab 101

NOTE: This article appeared in it’s entirety on Essence.com In my previous post (Drama Queens Get No Love!), I sited several cases of how being a Drama Queen doesn’t work in your favor. And as promised I will share the steps I took to make me a “recovering drama queen.”

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20 May 2013

Us Against The World: 3 Types of People To Keep Out of Your Relationship Drama

People love drama. They don’t care if it’s on a reality show, Facebook, or in the cubicle next to them! There is nothing more addictive than observing and commentating on other’s misfortunes. As much as we all try to front like we are “drama free”, every one of us can’t

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02 May 2013

The Curious Case of Blue Ivy

People are fascinated by celebrity babies. From the moment a famous mom announces she is pregnant, all eyes are glued to her growing “baby bump” (I hate that term) for several months until she gives birth. Once the child arrives, paparazzi and fan obsession with rich offspring kicks into high

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02 May 2013

What If I Had Married My Ex?

A friend and I were discussing this topic recently because he has been having problems with his wife lately. He asked me if I remembered a Sheena*, whom he dated when we were in our mid-20’s. I told him yes, as I had actually run into her recently. He wanted

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29 Apr 2013

Marriage Is Not Designed For You To Play Fair

Do you subscribe to the thinking of “If you treat me right, I’ll treat you right?” Or what about “Don’t dish it, if you can’t take it?” This line of thinking is correct if you are on a playground with your peers, but this does not work in marriage. Often

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29 Apr 2013

8 Signs You’re Dealing With An Emotionally Bankrupt Person

NOTE: THIS ARTICLE APPEARED IN ITS ENTIRETY ON ESSENCE.COM Let’s face it: relationships are hard enough when you have two sane, mature people, but throw just one damaged, emotionally bankrupt person in the mix and you’ve got a recipe for “hot mess gumbo.” When a person is emotionally void, there

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19 Apr 2013

Control Freaks Ruin Marriages!

I will be the first to admit that control was going to be the death of my marriage in the beginning. There were several (ok tons) of times when I not only used control, I abused control such as; telling my husband that he better not touch the heating/air setting

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19 Apr 2013

Who Are You Really In Love With?

Have you ever wondered what attracted you to your mate? What about an ex? If you look a little closer, you may see some traits that closely resemble one of your parents – probably the opposite sex. The saying that, “men marry their mothers” and “women marry their fathers” is

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18 Apr 2013

I Didn’t Give Up On Black Men, They Gave Up On Me!

NOTE: THIS ARTICLE APPEARED IN ITS ENTIRETY ON ESSENCE.COM Yes, you read the title correctly, and I can see your eyebrows raised and neck hairs bristling up.  Don’t hop off the ride just yet. I need you to put on your seat belts and rock with me for a minute.

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12 Apr 2013

I’m Looking For A Submission-Worthy Man

This post appeared in its entirety on Essence.com For the past 20 years everyone from the honorable pastor to dishonorable playa has been beating Black women over the head with the word submission. And the way it’s used feels more like a four-letter word being flung at us. For the

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11 Apr 2013

LESS TALK MORE ACTION: Should Men Bear The Burden Of The Relationship?

For the past couple of decades we have heard countless claims on how women are suppose to be the glue that holds relationships together. But are we letting the men slip on their responsibilities?  In a recent interview R&B recording artist Carl Thomas stated… “In a relationship a man bares

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08 Apr 2013

Everybody Has Advice: 5 “Relationship Experts” That I Actually LIKE!

When muddling through the muck and mire of a relationship, it can be hard to know where to turn for advice. As you well know, there are a lot of folks working under the guise of “relationship expert”, and  I have noted on more than one occasion how much these

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06 Apr 2013

7 Reasons Women Should Pay For Dates

My recent post on Essence.com caused quite a kerfuffle.  Read he post in full below. If I had a nickel for every time I heard a woman say “he has to pay to play,” I would own a professional football team by now. That mindset of entitlement totally baffles me.

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05 Apr 2013

Oh Snap,You Messed Up: 8 Tips To Win Back The Woman Of Your Dreams

So if you are reading this, its safe to say that either you want to win back the woman of your dreams.  Either that or you just want to see if this article is full of sh*t (LOL).  You would probably rather have heard this from a dude, but I

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