12 Dec 2014

Six Steps To Gaining A Healthy Financial Relationship (Part 3)

Last Friday we discussed steps 3-4 to gaining a healthy financial relationship. Today we conclude with steps 5-6. Step 5: Establish a routine time to sit down and discuss your finances Life is full of ups and downs and changes. It is important to recognize the importance of setting up

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14 Jun 2013

Love Still Good? When “We” Became “You and I”

How many times have you heard about a married couple who seemed to just be existing in their marriage?  Neither spouse wants to separate, but it seems as if neither is willing to put in any effort to make it work.  But why?  The spark is gone, the fire and

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20 May 2013

Us Against The World: 3 Types of People To Keep Out of Your Relationship Drama

People love drama. They don’t care if it’s on a reality show, Facebook, or in the cubicle next to them! There is nothing more addictive than observing and commentating on other’s misfortunes. As much as we all try to front like we are “drama free”, every one of us can’t

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02 May 2013

What If I Had Married My Ex?

A friend and I were discussing this topic recently because he has been having problems with his wife lately. He asked me if I remembered a Sheena*, whom he dated when we were in our mid-20’s. I told him yes, as I had actually run into her recently. He wanted

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29 Apr 2013

Marriage Is Not Designed For You To Play Fair

Do you subscribe to the thinking of “If you treat me right, I’ll treat you right?” Or what about “Don’t dish it, if you can’t take it?” This line of thinking is correct if you are on a playground with your peers, but this does not work in marriage. Often

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08 Apr 2013

Everybody Has Advice: 5 “Relationship Experts” That I Actually LIKE!

When muddling through the muck and mire of a relationship, it can be hard to know where to turn for advice. As you well know, there are a lot of folks working under the guise of “relationship expert”, and  I have noted on more than one occasion how much these

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01 Apr 2013

The Working Wife: 8 Ways To Have Productive Communication With Your Husband

If one more person tells me, “communication is key” to a happy marriage, I’m going to communicate something alright.  What they fail to do is tell you what ”communication” between a husband and wife should look and sound like.  It’s definitely more than just two people talking and listening.  If

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27 Mar 2013

Are Black Marriages Being Redefined?

March 17th 2013, commemorated 10-years of celebrating Black Marriage Day as founded by Nisa Islam Muhammad.  The day helps to bring awareness and encouragement to others in the community that Black Marriages still exist and should be celebrated. Since fewer marriages are represented today (less than 35%) in the African

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20 Mar 2013

4 Marriage Lessons from Inspirational Couples

It’s always inspiring to see couples that seem to have the secret to staying happily married. Many of us privately wonder what the secret is.  Here are some great lessons a few couples have shared. 1. Communication and Compromise Are Key “The hardest part of being a partner in a

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18 Mar 2013

Surviving The Love Journey

The old cliché  “change is good”- is dead.  Change is constant.  Especially in relationships today, whether good or bad – if there’s one thing I’ve learned over the years, it’s that change will inevitably happen. And it will occur- whether you’re ready or not, so I encourage you to take

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15 Mar 2013

Why My Wife’s Support Translates To Respect

“A man wants to be respected; a woman wants to be loved.” How many times have we heard this?  Implicit in the statement’s reasoning is men and women need two separate things to function well in relationships.  I can’t speak on what feeds a woman’s need to be loved.  I

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11 Mar 2013

Dear Ladies, A Man Should Be Your Satisfier

For those of you who are married or in a committed relationship, you know that understanding your mate is like picking up a second language; complex yet feasible. Our differences are what ultimately attract us to one another, but it’s those same differences that can be the root of our

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25 Feb 2013

5 Ways To A Healing, Healthy, Happy Relationship

No relationship, including mine, goes without its share of hurt. Understanding that hurt and disappointments are just a part of relating to others no matter the status or hierarchy of the relationship should be noted.  We all view situations depending on the lens that has shaped us through our environment

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07 Feb 2013

Sometimes You Have To Tell Yourself I’ll Be Right Back

Just taking a moment to look back and reflect on the past 30 days of my journey into 2013. I have found that reflection is needed to keep me going and to allow me to see the blessings that have passed my way. Often times I get so caught up

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10 Jan 2013

Boom Or Bust: Relationship Communication From A Male Perspective

I know it’s important for spouses to know how to speak to each other.  As a man, it’s important because we need to let our wives know we value them, but that we also see the need for communication in our marriage.  BUT…there are times when words are spoken that

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20 Dec 2012

Feeling Helpless: A New Father’s Dilemma

Six months old.That’s about how old my baby daughter is. When she was born, I was the one to hold her first. I got the first picture of her. Even though we had an older daughter, by me, this was my first time with the delivery room experience. The baby’s

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15 Dec 2012

Possibly The Best Wedding Dance EVER!! [VIDEO]

We have seen a lot of wedding dance videos, but we found this one circulating Facebook today it might just top them all.  We haven’t been able to find out who this couple is yet, but we are certainly curious to know how they came up with  a 3 and

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03 Dec 2012

RELATIONSHIPS: The Way You Start, Is The Way You Will Finish

Has your partner made promises that have not been kept? Are you always just handling things on your own because he seems to not want to handle it or it’s just taking way to long to get something done?  If you answered, “yes” to any of the above then you

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16 Nov 2012

Yes, Good People Cheat – But Should They Be Forgiven?

On any given Friday or Saturday you can find women of every ethnicity in a hair salon. It’s like the meet up spot without an invitation or posting to which you RSVP. Our hair salon sisters give a wealth of information while also allowing us to hold group therapy sessions.

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02 Nov 2012

Uninvited Guests: The Fewer People Involved In Your Relationship, The Longer It Will Last!

Have you ever noticed that the relationships you know the least about are always the ones that seem to be the best? Of course they are, because you don’t know the details of their every move…which is not always a bad thing.  No matter how hard we try not to

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22 Oct 2012

Grey Divorces – Is It Really Too Late

” Yes it’s over, the kids are gone, what’s the use trying to hang on…” Those are just a few of the lyrics to the 1978 hit by Denise Williams and Johnny Mathis “Too Much Too Little Too Late”.   Those words are being said/song by many today. Grey divorces

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12 Oct 2012

Live In Wifeys: Are You For Real or For Rent?

Over the weekend I had the pleasure of hanging out with a friend I have known for more than 22 years. We met on my first real job with the federal government. She and I have kept in touch by sending each other birthday wishes, and Christmas cards over the

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12 Oct 2012

Picture This…She Was Actually Made For You!!

Men, ever seen a woman and thought, “I wonder what she would look like with out her clothes on”? If her looks and style took you to that place you have already skipped over her inner qualities and blown away the reason why she was actually created for you. I

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09 Oct 2012

Its Not Rocket Science: 3 Simple Reasons Men Cheat On Their Wives

After more than 17 years of counseling wives that were cheated on and the men that cheated on them, I have identified the top 3 reasons men cheat.  In general, the rate of men cheating on their wives is much higher than that of women cheating, however women do cheat. 

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04 Oct 2012

Wives, Should You Be On Girlfriend Duty?

Before any of us became Wifey, we were the girlfriend. We did what any girlfriend would do to show the guy how great of a potential wife we would make. We looked great each time he saw us; we cooked whenever he came over; we laughed at his jokes; and

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