09 Feb 2012

A Case of the Mundane Relationship (pt.2)

What did you and your boo do this week that interrupted the monotony of your relationship? Here are some ideas for adding some sparkle to your social love-life during the week. Of course these activities don’t have to occur every day, or every week for that matter, but I challenge

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07 Feb 2012

Music To My Ears

My 6-year old son recently started taking piano lessons … something I have been wanting to do for a good portion of my life.  Because of his lessons, I am now pushing myself to learn and retain the basics of music theory.  For those of you that know music theory,

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02 Feb 2012

A Case of the Mundane Relationship (pt. 1)

After watching Sex and the City 2 for the umpteenth time, I couldn’t help but to study one of my favorite couples and compare their challenges to other relationships. I’m all the way Team Carrie! In the movie, Carrie was finding herself feeling uneasy about how her marriage to Big

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24 Jan 2012

The SAFE (My Security)

As I am sure all of you know, being married always has its ups and downs. The challenge is to always have more ups than downs. This most definitely gives you a better chance at having a long lasting marriage. One of the “ups” that should always be present is

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18 Jan 2012

Do You Know How To Talk?

When you read the title of this discussion, I know most of you said, “Of course I know how to talk”. And I bet many of you can talk with the best of them…probably talking too much. Now let me add three more words to this same question. Do you

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05 Jan 2012

I Wonder Are They Married?

So often in today’s society, many couples are choosing to be cohabitants without having the bond of holy matrimony associated with them.  In other cases, some married couples are choosing not to wear their wedding rings for one reason or another.  I’m not done yet.  Some married couples’ interaction with

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04 Jan 2012

A New Year, A New Vow

Every January 1st millions of people make promises to better their lives. From joining the gym and losing weight, to quitting a bad habit or starting a new venture, motivated celebrators find hope in starting over with a clean slate. But for a married couple my question is…now what? I

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03 Jan 2012

Gaining A Husband Doesn’t Mean Losing Yourself

I have heard many married females state, “If something happens to my husband or my marriage, I will never ever-ever get married again. This statement is usually followed by a disclaimer of how much they love their husbands but just wouldn’t do it again. They then go on to state

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30 Dec 2011

Lessons Learned From My Husband

Over the years, I’ve learned a lot from my husband.  Some things took longer for me to give him credit for than others.  Here are a few of my favorite lessons. 1. God will always be first in our lives, our family and our home.  I luv the fact that

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21 Dec 2011

A Beautiful Blend

There is no doubt that “blending and bonding” in a new stepfamily or newly “blended family” can be quite a challenge. In fact, there maybe situations in which bonding seems impossible. Overcoming walls of distrust and disinterest is an exercise of patience and persistence. . The new spouse may be

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19 Dec 2011

The Plants (Part 2)

In “The Plants…Part 1”, I spoke about how it’s important to get rid of the dead leaves in your marriage. This will give your marriage more room to grow in the areas where the “dead leaves” once occupied. Now there is another interesting situation with house plants that marriages can

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15 Dec 2011

The Plants (Part 1)

My Mom came to visit about a month ago and you know what Moms like to do when they come visit…find things to clean or straighten up, or correct minor things they feel could be better…without stepping on anyone’s toes (especially the wife’s toes). During her visit, one specific area

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14 Dec 2011

The Greatest Blended Family: Jesus, Mary and Joseph

The transitional changes of life and living today reflects in the state of our families. Many married parents divorce each other. Many are parents that have never been married. As a result, when the step of matrimony is taken or re taken by these individuals, the new union creates a

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14 Dec 2011

Twelve Naughty Days Of Christmas

Santa Baby has been making his list and checking it twice to find out if you have been naughty or nice! Well, let him know this year you definitely plan on being naughty! Here are some surefire tips that are guaranteed to spark up more than your fireplace for your

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08 Dec 2011

You Can’t Change Her, You Have To Embrace Her

So today I am talking to a good male friend of mine. He mentions that he recently had talks with some women about being in love and things of that nature. One of the things he took away from the conversation is that women fall in love with the men

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12 Nov 2011

Love the One You Love

Relationships are tough.  Sometimes they are so tough you just want to throw in the tile.  But you know, that may not be the right choice.  So what do you do then? Maybe since I’m miserable, I might as well make it miserable for everyone around me also.  Yeah, I

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27 Oct 2011

The Dream Team

To be married is to be part of a team.  As a married couple, you should have a purpose and that purpose should be something that you provide to the world. You can see how some married couples operate as teams when you see them as pastors of a church,

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19 Oct 2011

I’m Not The Enemy

Having your spouse accessible at all times can have its challenges sometimes.  Because of the close proximity of your spouse, you may tend to take your spouse for granted…not purposely.  Also, not purposely, we may sometimes treat our spouse unfairly due to other situations experienced outside of the home that

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07 Oct 2011

I Want My Popeyes Chicken

I cracked up when this one was laid upon my spirit.  So here I am at the gym, just finished swimming some laps in the pool, now taking a few minutes to relax in the steam room.  Relaxing to prepare myself mentally for the rest of the workday while at

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06 Oct 2011

No Pain, No Gain

Every morning around 5:30AM, I wake up to endure an intense cardio work-out. For 30 minutes, I push myself through several reps of strategic moves that target specific areas of my body. During the workout, I find myself wanting to quit—and quite frequently to be honest. Each set requires concentration,

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30 Sep 2011

How Can I Love You Today?

This is a challenge.  Better yet, it’s a dare.  I know it is a dare because 99% of us probably never or rarely ask our spouse the question … “How can I love you today?”. What do you think would happen if you asked your spouse this question … every

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29 Sep 2011

The Miseducation of a Modern Day Shacker: 5 Facts Every Girlfriend Needs to Know About Living Together Before Marriage

More than two-thirds of married couples in the United States will live together before saying, “I Do.”  Many couples move in together as a rehearsal before the real adventures of marriage-hood.  Some want to save money for a wedding or pay down debt. And with this test drive, you would

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15 Sep 2011

All Talk…No Action?

I got a little taste of my own medicine with this one.  How often do you say you are going to do something and end up not doing it?  It is probably quite often and you don’t even realize it occurs.  Think about it like this, once you say I’m

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13 Sep 2011

What Is Your Relationship ROI?

Recently I was a part of a discussion that centered on what people wanted as well as what people were willing to accept and give. It was based upon the notion that not everyone really knows what they want, but that those that actually do know are sometimes jaded due

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13 Sep 2011

Wives…Not Brides Wear The Tiara

Whether made of rhinestones or precious diamonds, a tiara symbolizes royalty. Many brides opt to or not to adorn their head with this stylish accessory. Regardless of their choice of style, every wife wears an invisible tiara as their new role of honor. I remember hearing a wise quote, saying

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