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C’MON MAN…Marriage Edition

What’s going on in the world today with marriages?  Have you been hearing what’s going on?  Have you been seeing what’s going on?  Have you been feeling what’s going on?  It’s on T.V.  It’s on the radio, in magazines, in newspapers.  It’s the apparent infatuation with “let’s watch them get married and get a divorce” scenario being played over and over in today’s society.  C’MON MAN!

When did it become the cool thing to date, get married, and then divorce all within a 1 year timespan…or less?  Maybe the couples going through this scenario don’t think it’s cool.  Maybe it’s a case of them just not knowing what marriage is.  Maybe they’re just caught in the revolving door of what they see around them and what they see depicted in society or in the media.  Maybe they don’t know any better?  C’MON MAN!

Why are you getting married?  For acceptance?  For social status?  For money (internal & external)?  To be able to say you’re finally married now?  C’MON MAN!

I know we’re all human and we’ve been given the gift of “choice” to freely make our own decisions.  With that freedom, we must choose wisely and sanely when it comes to settling down with someone and say “I DO”.

To those of you who are married, stay married!  Put in the work required to ensure your marriage prospers and last.  Be “all in”…and make sure both husband and wife are “all in” together.

To those of you looking to get married, don’t approach it as a project.  Approach marriage as it being the most important life-lasting decision you will ever make.  Life-lasting = till you die.  You marry your spouse with the understanding and wisdom that you will be with this person until one or the other dies.

So C’MON MAN, let’s get serious about this thing called marriage.

Honor it…respect it…love it.

Love hard and love true.

 

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Cedric and Christel Wells

Cedric and Christel Wells

Cedric and Christel chose to join their lives together on March 6, 2004. Over these seven years, they have endured obstacles that many married couples go through…learning the hard/easy ways to grow and strengthen their bond.