Emotional Nudity

Haters Can’t Hate, When They Don’t See You Coming

SPOILER ALERT: Over the weekend I went to see the movie After Earth starring Will Smith and his son Jaden (great acting, ehhh…so-so film).  I won’t ruin the whole picture for you, but I am going to share a key component.  So if you plan to go see the film…err, ya might wanna stop reading NOW!

Anyhoo, as it turns out the humans in the film are fighting some hella ugly alien creatures and Will’s character is known to be one of the fiercest warriors of all mankind.  He does something called “ghosting”, which makes him invisible to the alien predators.  Apparently the butt-ugly alien dudes are blind but they hunt the humans by detecting the pheromones that they secrete when they are afraid.  Will’s character is a true badass who has absolutely NO FEAR so he doesn’t secret the phermones.  Thus he can sneak up on those suckers and give them a futuristic ass whooping before they can smell him coming…that’s ghosting.

unwrapped_fans_webWhew…now let’s switch gears a for a sec.  For the life of me, I can’t figure out why people seem to be so obsessed with having “haters”.   It seems to me that people spend way too much time focused on who is jealous or not happy for them.  Quite frankly, I find it to be a waste, cause I’m too busy running my own race.  It also helps that I’m slightly delusional about what people think of me?   Mostly, I’m too busy believing that ERRBDODY loves me, to even imagine that I have haters *giggles*.

The other reason is that haters almost NEVER see me coming, so they rarely get a chance to round up their negative energy before I pull a Will Smith and clobber them with good vibrations. How is that possible you ask?  Well I’m glad you asked my love.  Here is how I do it.

1. Share what’s relevant:  Not everything matters to everyone.  I always make sure the information I’m sharing is relevant to the people I’m talking to.  I rarely make it about me, and when I do, I make sure there is a high entertainment value for others.

2. Celebrate others: When good things happen for my friends I’m just as excited for them as for myself (sometimes more so in fact).  When you celebrate all the joy in your world, people want to celebrate with you, no matter who they are celebrating for.

3. The element of surprise: Sometimes great things happen in my life in rapid succession.  If I share good news in “real time” then not only does it become overwhelming, it appears that I am bragging.  I just love when folks say “I didn’t know you…”  You should see the delight in their eyes, I mean who doesn’t love a surprise!

and my FAVORITE!!!

4. Ghosting: That’s right, living without fear or apologies keeps the haters confused. Think about it, haters are most often unhappy about something in their own lives. Ghosting is not only admirable, its LEGENDARY.  Haters are so busy trying to figure out your secret they forget to hate… (can I get a woot woot).

I’m sure you are wondering why someone would go through so much trouble to neutralize a hater.  The truth is, I could care less about the haters,  I just understand that this life ain’t all about me.

Nakedly Yours,
Jai Stone (@JaiStone)

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Jai Stone

Jai Stone, is often referred to as the Emotional Nudist. A phrase that defines her brand of authentic living. With nearly 20 years in the marketing industry Jai has become a well respected social media expert and is also the founder of the Black Love Forum Movement.