He saw you across the room
He admired her style
He anxiously waited for the 2nd date
He gasped when she walked in the door
He changed his loafers
Now they both wear Prada
She invited him to her apartment
His jaw hit the floor
She never saw him again!
As much as I talk about the design basics; have a great bed, buy great towels, tidy up the front room, I hear time and time again from men, how turned off they are by the way you live. “My girlfriend is a slob!” is a comment that I hear often, then he goes on to say how fabulous she appears when she is out at clubs or having dinner with her girls. They notice her bag is Celine and not Gucci, and how she know everything about who wore what, but she sleeps on a mattresses stacked in the corner. And said mattresses are also where she sits to watch her favorite television shows because there’s no furniture in the living room!
I use to wonder why that mattered, but for some guys it does. It starts with an off hand comment about your house keeping skills, but ends in an all out rant about women and illusions and how women who dress well in public but live poorly at home are keeping up fake appearances.
I’ve given it a lot of thought to this and this is what I know. If you don’t invite a guy to your house after a while, he is going to think that you are hiding something. Chances are you are not the 1st girl who keeps up this illusion and he won’t be fooled twice. If during your 1st – 5th date, you’ve shown up impeccably dressed, dripping in labels, he’s going to expect that you are also living well. In a way, he needs you to inspire him to live better, to buy better sheets and to light a candle preferable the Bond No. 9 Wall Street candle that echoes the smell of the cologne. He’s looking for a wife and how you treat your home while on your own is an indicator of how you’ll take care of the home he will provide.
If you have it all together, then have it all together. Don’t spend more on your hair and clothes than you do your home. If you are single and dating, you are going to have to pay closer attention to how you are living. Even in temporary spaces it’s important to make creating a warm and inviting space top priority.
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