I am gonna do it again! My baby proposed and I accepted! I always said I would not ever get married again. But I have a pure love for this man that I know is reciprocated. Yes! I am doing it again! There is so much to do and so much preparation for my big day. However, unlike a never married bride, my preparation and planning involves a sit down with my children instead of my parents. It requires premarital counseling individually and jointly (something I didnt do the first time). It involves reassuring those with whom I have bonds that I am still here even though with a different last name. And in all of this preparation, I thought about my Ex. No, not in a way of wanting him back but in putting the failed relationship in perspective and understaing the role the relationship played in my current happiness. These thoughts led to this letter:
I remember when our love was new, fresh, and hopeful. I dont know if our feelings were mutually pure, but I thought we were taking voows for a lifetime. However, althoughh our union did not last, it produced two interesting and handsome young men. We have an obligation of due respect to each other as a result. We created some good memories. However, ultimately, those good times were not enough. I truly wish you the best and thank you for the role you played in my personal growth. It is my sincere wish that my contribution to your life was as rich. Please wish me well in my new union. I wish you the same. Take care and much love.
Now I am ready for new ventures…..