Love Like In Love (pt. 1): The Action
Love like in-love. Simple? No. Challenging? Yes. Achievable? Always.
Are you afraid to love your spouse? Do you know how to love your spouse? If your answers are “no” and “yes”, respectively, to these two questions, then I hope you are actively showing your spouse the love you have for him/her. If not actively showing love, what’s the problem? What’s the hold-up? Nothing should get in your way to show the one you have committed to how much love you have specifically geared towards your union.
Personally, I fall into this answer category and admittedly find myself (every blue moon) not showing love at the capacity I know I am capable of. Why? Well I could blame it on time, or kids, or being tired, or even her attitude. Regardless of the many excuses I can come up with, I consistently remind myself there is no excuse. All the distractions that are in the love lane with my spouse have to be knocked aside.
Now if you are acutely aware and sensitive to your marriage and what contributions you bring to it, you should recognize when you are falling short of the bar in showing love…and you should recognize this before your spouse does. If not, eventually your spouse will start to feel the lack-luster love which could lead to more interesting situations.
What’s the solution? You need to love like in-love. In other words, show your spouse the unconditional love you have for him/her 24/7/365. When you shower your spouse with that unconditional love, you will break down those barriers and excuses that normally try to get in the way. Even when things are not at their best, you still have to love like in-love. Even if your spouse isn’t showing that much love towards you, you still have to love like in-love. EVEN WHEN YOU DON’T WANT TO…YOU STILL HAVE TO LOVE LIKE IN-LOVE.
Love hard and love true.