Love Like In Love (pt.2): The Stages
Love like in-love. In a previous article I spoke of these words as an action couples should be taking to ensure love is being properly expressed and felt within the marriage. Now I want to look at these words in a different way. Instead of “LOVE LIKE IN-LOVE”, let’s look at “LIKE, LOVE, and IN-LOVE”…stages that every great relationship should have.
I’m going to start off with LOVE. Why here?…because you’re already married and love should be there. This is a simple but big assumption. Many people get married for many reasons and I hope the underlying constant in all cases is that love is present. If “love” isn’t there, then please do a “gut check” of your relationship. Love must be there because it is the foundation. As a very good book states…love is patient, love is kind, love does not envy or brag…and so on. The love you share with your spouse should follow these principles (they should’ve been in place before you said “I DO”). During that gut check I spoke about earlier, do your best to truly understand what love is and understand your love for and with your spouse. Are you patient with your spouse? Are you kind to your spouse?
The next two stages, in my expressed opinion, go hand in hand. LIKE & IN-LOVE. Isn’t “in-love” the place where we always want to be with our spouse? Waking up each morning with a smile on our face as soon as we lay our eyes on our spouse…rushing to get home to spend every ounce of time we can with our spouse before we have to close our eyes to sleep…or just talking hours upon hours with our spouse about any and everything we can think of. How exactly do you get to that stage? You “like” your spouse. That’s right…you actually have to “like” your spouse. You have to like your spouse’s personality. You have to like the little strange things your spouse does that would normally turn someone completely off. You have to simply like hanging out with your spouse doing nothing.
Here’s a recap. We know we love our spouse. Love alone won’t get you in-love. You have to like your spouse…which will cause you to do extra things with and for your spouse…which will then lead to that extra happiness within your relationship…which then allows you to fall head-over-heels in-love with your spouse.
Here’s the deal, because of the ups and downs of marriage, you get to fall in-love over and over with your spouse.
I hope you LIKE your spouse.
Love hard and love true.