Can You Do IT Standing Up? Kenny Pugh Speaks on Making Celibacy Sexy
Celibacy is one word that makes anyone over the age of 25 and not a virgin scratch their heads about its actual meaning. For some people, that word implies a non-existent sex life because of a non-existent love life but for others, that word means a pledge of purity from sexual pleasures until protected by the bonds of marriage.
Atlanta-based Life & Relationship Strategist, Kenny Pugh, a bestselling author (Can You Do IT Standing Up? A Different Position on Relationships) and a celibate man for over six years has launched a lifestyle campaign, “Celibacy is Sexy” that seems to be resonating among thousands of like-minded single adults who have taken the same pledge – whether privately or publicly and by several indicators, seems to be creating a movement of sorts.
Black Love Forum recently sat down with Pugh to hear more about this campaign and why he thinks it’s turning into a movement.
BLF: How did you come up with the “Celibacy is Sexy” slogan?
KP: After having such a successful year with the release of my book, “Can You Do IT Standing Up?” which is largely about my personal journey to decide to become celibate and the insightful relationship breakthroughs I discovered, I thought it might be cool to dedicate 30 days sharing the benefits I discovered by leading a celibate lifestyle and send daily thoughts through Facebook and Twitter. In our society, sex sells, so I decided to reverse that trend by attaching the same connotation to living a celibate lifestyle which is how I came up with the name.
BLF: So you didn’t actually intend for this to go as far as it has?
KP: Absolutely not. I am still in awe in how well this message has been received. The response that I received to my daily tips was so overwhelming that it turned into email sign ups to get a dedicated email with tips and encouragement living this lifestyle to videos, it went viral on social media platforms that quickly turned into a website and line of t-shirts before the 30 days was even up.
BLF: Wow, so clearly there is a population of singles out there that support your message?
KP: Yes, which isn’t surprising to me. Casual sex, false love, selfish desire, displaced boundaries and miscalculated friendships are all characteristics of what I call ‘contemporary dating’ which I believe has destroyed our society. People are tired of being in relationships that end up at dead ends, that bring more pain than pleasure and that sends them off with a little of their hopes chipped away at. Celibacy is a cure for all these relationship ailments.
BLF: What do you hope to accomplish from this campaign?
KP: My desire is to see more men and women desiring monogamous committed relationships, more unmarried men and women serving in their faith and their communities, more open public communication about relationship issues, no more failed marriages due to irreconcilable differences and no more hurt women at the hands of ignorance and more importantly a more positive approach to relationships for the upcoming generations to model.
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