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Marriage – What is It’s Purpose?

This is a question I think many husbands and wives ask themselves a lot. I think this is a healthy question that you should always ask yourself.  Another way of phrasing the question, as stated in Tyler Perry’s blockbuster hits, “Why Did I Get Married?”.   Asking yourself this question gives you the opportunity to gauge your marriage…allows you to reevaluate your marriage…take the pulse of your marriage. Whenever I ask myself this question, I normally get some of the same answers every time…companionship, love for the person, the want and desire to have a family (to be fruitful and multiply).

I feel the main purpose of marriage is for companionship. In the beginning, God stated that man should not be alone, and he created woman so that the man could have a companion. I know you might think sometimes that you could be better off being single (women always say “I can do bad by myself”) …especially if you are a newlywed. But you must ask yourself, how would things be better if my spouse were not in my life? For me, I would be miserable. When I traveled a lot on business, I can’t tell you the number of nights I sat in the hotel room wanting to be lying with my wife. And don’t let her go out of town…I am at home wondering when is my baby coming back home. Even though we have children to keep us occupied when the other is away, there is nothing like having my companion by my side.

I feel another key purpose of marriage is for the expression of love. I know you may be saying that you can love anyone or anything. This is true. You can love a lot of people and things…your parents, your children, a dog, a cat, a car, a house, or whatever else you choose to love. However, you cannot express the type of love that is meant for a spouse with any of the people or items mentioned above. In other words, you cannot be intimate with any of them…or at least I hope you aren’t :).  To me there is no greater feeling than being able to be intimate with my wife. While everything in a marriage may not be perfect, it is enjoyable. To me, marriage is a blessing that God gives my wife and I to enjoy with each other, to express our love to each other in many ways specific only to the two of us.

All in all, I feel that the purpose of marriage is to bring happiness into two people’s lives. As the Biblical scripture states “The man who finds a wife finds a treasure and receives favor from the Lord” -Proverbs 18:22. Marriage is a treasure hunt with your spouse being the treasure. Even though your treasure is sitting directly in front of you, you can only see or may have only been exposed to a small portion of your treasure. There is an enormous amount of treasure and riches waiting to be found within your spouse. You have to continue to look and search for those hidden treasures within your spouse. And each time you find a hidden treasure within your spouse, or even within yourself or your marriage, you will be amazed and your marriage will continue to grow. The thing I like about it, I anticipate that this treasure hunt in marriage will last forever…therefore causing never-ending growth and love with your spouse…and for me, with my wife.

Love hard and love true.

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Cedric and Christel Wells

Cedric and Christel Wells

Cedric and Christel chose to join their lives together on March 6, 2004. Over these seven years, they have endured obstacles that many married couples go through…learning the hard/easy ways to grow and strengthen their bond.

2 Comments

  1. LadyE
    July 28, 2012 at 11:13 PM

    After the wedding and your husband thinks he got u thats when all the things he did to get u r over every opportunity he gets he is in the streets I really love him but marriage is more trouble than I ever dreamed especially when ur spouse wants to be married and single at the same time collecting phone numbers staying in the club between 2-4am but in the morning he is married oh yeah he casually lost his wedding band when we were out of town at this point maybe it should stay off

  2. Theresa K
    July 29, 2012 at 8:49 PM

    LadyE, I understand what you’re saying, but I have to ask why you married. I am not trying to be disrespectful or doubtful of your motives, but so many people aren’t truly ready when they get married. Sometimes both parties aren’t quite ready. I would suggest maybe couples therapy. Sometimes a mediator can help get “the conversation” started.

    But from someone who was married 6.5 years at the time of my husband’s death–I am a proud proponent of marriage. I love love and I loved being married. It wasn’t perfect, but we had a wonderful line of communication. That is the key in any relationship. Especially in marriages because this person is in your life (hopefully) forever. I am waiting for my second husband to materialize in my life. I have been in several relationships and could have been married but those people weren’t what was good in my life. I can’t just have anyone in my life like that for the sake of being married. Although I did love one of them, but I knew I couldn’t see myself with him in that capacity. He was missing so much of what I needed in a husband. I knew I didn’t want a man who still hit the clubs and hung out with his boys like he is still in high school. I am almost 40 and that is a no-no.