Marriage & Couplehood

Marriage: What Is Your Perception? (pt 1 of 3)

At the end of the school day, I dismissed my students from the classroom to go home. Like clockwork, I then reached for my iPhone4 to read the statuses of my friends on Facebook. As I scrolled down the recent updates, I came across author and radio host Michael Baisden’s most recent post. He posed a question that quickly gained popularity—generating over 500 comments (179 were “liked” by viewers). The post read: What is so great about marriage? Since I saw that the post was getting immediate feedback, and I didn’t want to receive a notice every time a new response dinged in, my reaction was verbal. Marriage is bliss. Marriage is freedom. Marriage is love. In essence, what is so great about marriage? Everything! In my happy-go-lucky demeanor, I began reading responses one-by-one believing that I would come across some like-minded individuals who also saw the magic created between a husband and wife. However, I noticed how the smirk on my face was transforming to raised eyebrows and a dropped mouth. Marriage had a bad reputation.  Many of the users felt that “Nothing” was great about marriage. Another user has been married for 16 years and was still trying to figure out what all the “hype” was about. Then there was the user who wrote that “divorce” was what made marriage great. This comment was also followed by a sarcastic LOL!

I was confused. How could anyone come to this conclusion about the highest sought-after position in the land? What woman didn’t desire to live happily ever after with her prince charming? And what man didn’t desire the love from a beautiful woman that he would forever call his wife? I began to think that the claims were all based on perception. Could it be that the perception of marriage that has been witnessed or experienced in life has given people little hope of living the storybook fantasy? Perhaps someone on Facebook will come to the defense of this institution before the image of marriage is forever ruined. To be continued…

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Lakia Brandenburg

Lakia Brandenburg

Lakia is an accomplished writer and educator with a heart for love and relationships. She's written for Gospel Today and has freelanced for top national magazines such as Upscale. Creating a happily ever after story to be your reality.

1 Comment

  1. Shunte
    August 21, 2011 at 10:07 PM

    Well you know LB, not everyone has had the chance to experience what you and Derrick have and that could be for a number of reasons. One of the main reasons I feel is because people marry for the wrong reasons! Then there is that word “perception” that you so love! Even though I’m not married, I know that much of what you spoke of in your book is true. I also know that no matter what, both parties have to be willing participants in any relationship.