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Music To My Ears

My 6-year old son recently started taking piano lessons … something I have been wanting to do for a good portion of my life.  Because of his lessons, I am now pushing myself to learn and retain the basics of music theory.  For those of you that know music theory, you know there are two clefs that are normally used on the grand staff … Treble clef and Bass clef.  On the piano, the Treble clef notes are normally played with the right hand and the Bass clef is played with the left hand.  Now you can play the Treble clef notes without the Bass clef notes and get a solid piece of music.  You can do the same with the Bass clef notes.  This can be done because each set of notes are independent from the other.  However, it’s when you play both set of notes together that you get a beautiful blend of music.

Now look at your marriage.  Are you and your spouse creating a beautiful blend of music together?  You must realize that one of you is the Treble clef, and the other the Bass clef.  Each of you have your individual personalities and livelihood; and I am sure you could operate independently if required.  But because you are married, the two of you should be blending all your individualities together to form one beautiful union.

In music, some notes don’t sound good at all when played together; but when you put them in the proper arrangement, you can get a great sound.  As couples, we should all figure out how to arrange our personalities to create the best atmosphere … the best environment for our marriage.  This takes time and might not be that easy to do.  At any particular moment in the day, your spouse may be in a certain mood (good or bad).  Once you recognize the mood, make the necessary adjustments with your mood that will best fit your spouse’s mood.  Like I said earlier … this isn’t easy. What’s the alternative?  You and your spouse consistently bumping heads with your personalities and/or moods … leading to a lifetime of misery.

I am going to sum this all up in one word that makes many people shiver when it’s mentioned …SUBMIT.  Depending on the situation, you may need to SUBMIT some of your personality … some of your feelings … some of your attitude to ensure you both are in tune with each other (applicable for both husbands and wives).


1. Understand you and your spouse are not the same

2. Know and recognize your spouse’s moods & personality

3. Be willing to adjust your attitude & personality on a daily basis to create marital harmony


The challenge is set!  

Can you and your spouse make harmonious music together?

Love hard and love true.  Let us know your thoughts.

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Cedric and Christel Wells

Cedric and Christel Wells

Cedric and Christel chose to join their lives together on March 6, 2004. Over these seven years, they have endured obstacles that many married couples go through…learning the hard/easy ways to grow and strengthen their bond.