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New Year = New Outlook

Happy New Year to every one…and a new year  it is indeed! <<<With my late a**…

And yes, I haven’t posted anything since my break up with Prototype. And yes, it hurt THE HELL out of me.  I wasn’t in a robe eating Breyer’s all day and night…but I did have “stare- off- into- space –while-biting-my-nails-even-while-people- were- present” moments from time to time.

Over the holidays’ wasn’t any better either… I felt like  I had a “Christmas Carol” of my own; but instead of being the loving Mrs. Cratchit, I was Scrooge;  and the ghost of Christmas past and present brought just about every guy I ever dated, or had a relationship with, into my store (I work in retail) over the December month…weird. I mean even my high school sweetheart decided to drop by.

My co-worker asked me…”Where are you finding all these fine men?”  (hey I don’t date slouches )…and no doubt they ARE handsome,  well dressed, well spoken, come from good familes, AND educated …(again I don’t date slouches)…but none of them are the one. Like, I really can’t imagine spending the rest of my life with any of them; where as other women  would gladly say” Hell I’ll take him!” in a heartbeat. And that made me ponder several questions:


  1. Am I too picky?
  2. Why didn’t it work out?
  3. Do I really know what I want in a man?
  4. Do I need to change my occupation on Facebook from public to private?

And when I tried to answer these questions, I conjured  a “maybe”, a “no”, a “hell yes!”, and a blank. Also in that process of pondering, I noticed an intriguing  trend in my dating habits…I am attracted to assholes!

What a harsh freakin’ reality!  But a reality nontheless. I love quick witted, smart alec-types. I dig those kinds of men…they keep me on my toes and keep others in their place, but geez when they begin to turn that trait I love so much on me…that’s where the problems arise. Don’t get me wrong, not all of them were assholes; some were cool, but there just wasn’t enough chemistry to continue… and that’s quite fine too, but the majority,unfortuanately, were assholes. :-\

So this year, instead of dating the same kind of guys thinking I’m going to achieve a different result…I’m revamping my “dream man” list (Yes, I have one of those).  I will be removing anything that could be a possible synonym for “asshole” ( alec, quick witted, savvy a.k.a. slick) and replacing them with qualities that REALLY matter like “…How well he treats his Mother and sister(s)”…and grown-up words like “family-oriented” and”chivalrous”. The rest will be chucked onto my “Black List” with the numbers of individuals I have blocked from 2011, because in 2012 I’m just not available for nonsense…you should’nt be either. 🙂





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B. Knight

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Her name is Brittany Knight, but you can call her “B” as everyone else does. She is a driven right brained individual residing in Atlanta, GA, and the first thing you should know about her is that she is a writer…period. Directly following that is dreamer.