Sex & Magic

One, Two, Three, Foursome? Preparation & Advice

Threesomes are sticky. Literally and figuratively. I’ve had them, quite a few of them actually and every single one was great and well worth my time. But I was also single. We all were. I know myself and even though my jealous tendencies remain pretty low, I couldn’t do it in a relationship. I personally have no interest in a M-F-M threesome, but I don’t think I could handle watching my man slam into some new chick.

But I’ve been thinking about it and realistically, a great solve for this issue is to have a foursome. In all seriousness. A foursome will cut out the awkward number. Maybe it’s a big leap from two to four, but if you’re afraid you or your partner might get upset, but are still VERY interested in trying one, a foursome might be the way to go. You’re easiest way to go about this is to find a couple that is also interested in exploring. You can use online swingers sites or even ask around to your groups of friends. You just might find another kinky couple lingering in your group.

But whether or not, you go with four, or you just stick to the standard three, it’s important to keep some things in mind and do some initial prep before you really begin.

STD testing. It’s not something sexy to talk about, but it’s super important. You would hate for you and your partner to have a clean, disease-free, monogamous relationship and then screw the whole thing up by sleeping with someone or a couple one time. While a threesome can be entirely unplanned, I recommend you talk about and plan the first one, just so you can make sure you all have your bases covered.

However, it’s still important to use protection, even if you and your bedroom mates are disease-free. You don’t want to be moving bodily fluids from one person to another. That’s a fast way to develop an infection. Especially if you’re going for all tour stops along the way. So be sure to stock up on a huge box of condoms and lube, for that matter, beforehand.

Personal hygiene. You’re going to have a lot of people in one area. Make sure you take the proper precautions to wash, clean and shave/trim beforehand. Maybe going completely bare down there isn’t your thing, but a little trim can go along way in the ways of appreciation from your bed mates. Keep things tidy, looking and smelling nice. The last thing you need in the throes of your threesome passion is someone to choke on a hair.

And finally, toys. If you and your partner are big fans of incorporating toys in the bedroom, you need to be hesitant to do so during a threesome. Sharing bondage toys and lube is fine, but sharing anal beads, Ben Wa Balls and vibrators is not a good idea. Using sex toys on multiple people without properly cleaning them in between can be a recipe for infection disaster. So if you want to use them, make sure you have several toys around or multiple sets of toy so that you don’t have to share. If you’re looking for a great place to pick up all these toys and more. head over to Adam & Eve.

All in all, I think threesomes are great. A foursome could be even better and should I embark upon another mattress party, that might be the way I go. If you’ve been thinking about adding a friend or two to your bed, make sure you talk to your partner, really talk to your partner. Make sure you guys have an understanding of jealously and limits. If you can come to an agreement, fantastic, just be sure to take my preparation advice.

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