I asked the members of TCC
Would you stick around for a second date if on the first date he/she told you “if you ever get locked up, I’m gone”
And in ALL n=honesty, I was NOT prepared for the discussion that was about to take place. 2 of our members went in and I promise I heard a bell ring every 7 minutes or so… It was and still is a very interesting conversation and I’d like to present it for further discussion. The posts ranged from “of course” to “it depends” to “HEELL NAAAWL” We touched on a LOT of different reasons and even though I faught tooth and nail to get my point across, I have to say that my views have been slightly changed to at least understand the logic behind this… But not quite.
First and foremost, I want to state that It’s going to be a rare occasion that a truly committed man would leave his woman if she was locked up for a short period over some BS. From what I’ve gathered via a heated TCC discussion I can’t say that about the majority of our upstanding and *successful women. For various reasons, some don’t want to deal with a brother that has ANY kind of record. Im talking about if you had a parking ticket that got missed in the realities of life and was incarcerated after being pulled over in a road block, she’s gone. That’s a wrap. Now… I’m wondering how many *successful single women feel the same way? Is this one of many scenarios in which she would vacate a relationship? Is there a moral to this story about loyalty and an underlying lesson on why they may be still be single?
*And here’s the disclaimer: I only refer to successful woman because during the discussion these are the woman who had this opinion. Also, the word “majority” was used for a purpose. In no way am I attempting to categorize all successful women in this statement. I assumed the “successful” part merely on how they projected their views and how they presented themselves via an FB profile. Before you get all upset, if you’re getting upset, by no means is this a blanket statement or stereotype, merely an observation that I felt needed to be elaborated upon and further discussed. With that being said, if you are going to use any of this in any way form or fashion please refrain from misquoting my words in attempt to demean myself, TCC or BFF. We are ALL here to learn, grow and understand.
Join the discussion HERE on the BLF Community, I’m anxious to hear your thoughts.