Sex & Magic

Role Play: The Dominatrix

Do you want to bring your lover to their knees! You want to leave them breathless and yearning for more! Are you ready for a night of pure, unbridled pleasure? If you’ve answered YES to any of these questions, then it’s time for you to take control of the situation and of your lover just for one night. And yes, I did say control!! Unleash your feminine powers on your lover by becoming a sexy, strapping Dominatrix! I guarantee it will be an experience to remember!

Female dominance in most cases refers to a power exchange in which the female assumes the dominant role, usually in BDSM activities (bondage and discipline; dominance and submission; sadism and masochism ). BDSM encompasses many activities, including – but are not limited to – forms of dominance, submission, discipline, punishment, bondage, sexual role-playing, sexual fetishism, and sadomasochism, as well as the full spectrum of mainstream personal and sexual interactions.

Not by any means am I recommending that you become fully engaged as professional dominant/lifestyle dominant. Nor, I am suggesting that you become an active member of BDSM community. And I am certainly NOT advocating for you to inflict physical, mental and/or emotional pain on your lover. I am however, suggesting that if you want to spice things up a bit than a sexy Dominatrix role-play just might do the trick! It’s a fun way to explore your fantasies and desires; not to mention to learn more about what turns you and your lover on! It can also be a great way to build trust between you and your love!

Keep in mind that because Domination is an exchange of trust, it should only occur between committed couples. And before engaging in any sexual play, you should always establish a safe word. The purpose for this word is a signal to you that you’re lover is uncomfortable or wants to stop immediately. The safe word should be something that doesn’t come up in regular conversation. It should not be a name, or anything that you or your lover might remember. As always when playing any sexual games, use common sense and discretion!

Ready to Unleash you Feminine Powers…..

To start, send your lover an email or text in the middle of the day with the following instructions….. telling them where to be, and what to be wearing. Nothing long and mushy, nor overly creative. Ex: “Remove your clothes, place the blindfold over the eyes and knock on the bedroom door. You have 5 minutes.” You may include instructions about blindfolds or restraints or whatever. Remember: YOU ARE IN CONTROL!!!

While You’re Waiting for Your Lover…..

  1. Set the Scene. Make sure the room is ready. Place scented candles around the room to stimulate the sense of smell.
  2. Take a nice relaxing bubble bath. Make sure you’re nice and fresh. You may want to spray on your lover’s favorite scent. Make sure your hair and make-up are flawless. And if you want to go all out, try putting on a wig. Next, put on your favorite outfit.
  3. Make sure all your props are easily accessible so you don’t have to interrupt the flow. Suggestions: restraints, a variety of fruit (cut into bit size piece) and other foods, various materials to stroke body parts, adult toys, etc.

Now You’re Ready to Take Control……

After your lover has enter the room, let him see you but NOT touch you! Remember you must maintain control of the situation at ALL times. Next, blindfold your lover and tie their hands and feet to each bed post (not too tightly) or you can use hand cuffs.

Once you are certain that your lover can not move or see, begin stimulating their senses. Using a variety of fruits, rub each piece along your lover’s lips, allowing them to taste the juices. You may also dip fruit into chocolate, caramel, etc. Gently stroke and massage various body parts with your hands, vibrators, feather, a silk scarf, a piece of suede, leather, a strand of pearls or anything else you can think of. Send chills all over your lover’s body by rubbing something cool on the body following by something nice a warm. Glass or metal toys are nice for this!! Next, whisper sexy, erotic questions into their ears, i.e. who’s is it, how do you want me to touch you, what’s my name, would you like to have sex with me, etc.

Finally remove the blindfold so your lover can gaze at how absolutely breath-taking you look, as you are caressing your entire body; peeling off your outfit piece by piece. After you feel that you have teased and stimulating your lovers senses until they can no longer take it, slowly untie their feet followed by their hands. Now the rest is…..up to you!

“Submit yourself to become the object of pleasure and desire. You’ll be so glad that you did!”

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TaMara Campbell

TaMara Campbell

TaMara has more than 18 years experience of coaching, speaking, writing and teaching about human sexuality and intimate relationships so there’s very little that she hasn’t heard about sex.