Surviving The Love Journey
The old cliché “change is good”- is dead. Change is constant. Especially in relationships today, whether good or bad – if there’s one thing I’ve learned over the years, it’s that change will inevitably happen. And it will occur- whether you’re ready or not, so I encourage you to take that leap of faith, embrace the unexpected, and look forward to change in your love life.
Personally speaking, I remember many changes in my love journey. Starting way back when in high school… I grew up in a very conservative, Christian home and my mom and dad said I wasn’t suppose to date, but I had secret boyfriends (lol), which resulted in me learning about love and heartbreak the hard way.
Nonetheless, it wasn’t until I learned to let go and follow God’s lead in love that my plan began to expand, forgive, and make room for new love- lasting love.
First, I began to evaluate: What was really important to me in life? What could I see myself doing for the rest of my life? What’s my vision of my ideal mate and if the man that God has for me is nothing like that? Can I be flexible with a few of my standards? Bottom line- who do I see myself sharing my dreams with while helping them consistently achieve their goals as well?
After many mission trips, soul probing and life refocusing, it clicked. I didn’t need to look for love. Love would find me.
Love- indeed it’s a spiritual journey (in my view) and my soul mate definitely came when I wasn’t expecting him… In fact, I had made up in my mind that I wasn’t going to date, just focus on my education and starting my career. Yet, when my husband came in the picture- we built an unbreakable bond through communication, surviving the tests of change, smiling, laughing, forgiving, reminiscing, celebrating, and simply, enjoying the blessings of a relationship and companionship.
As we continue on this journey and its many changes we hope you’ll join us each week on BLF…
So LOVIES, please share, what has been the most challenging change in your love journey? Leave a comment below or send me a note on Twitter – @DM_Empowers
Blessings from Debbie Manigat