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The 2012 Standard

I was listening to the radio some time ago and there was a segment discussing relationships between men and women searching for Mr. or Ms. Right. One of the key discussion points was that of “standards”. Are my standards to high? Are my standards to low? Many are concerned their standards may cause them to miss out on that person catching their eye from across the room.

I ask this question…”What are you using to set your standards?”. Are you allowing society to dictate what your standards are in a mate? Are you allowing friends and family the opportunity to tell you what you need in a mate? Are you getting your standards from novels, magazines, and movies? Many, or maybe, all of these contributors paint the picture of the perfect person…the perfect mate. So now many people adopt those standards and establish them as the blueprint/treasure map for finding their Mr. or Ms. Right. I will admit that I had my own standards back in the day when it came to dating and searching for Ms. Right. Where did I get my standards from? I would say that I gathered many of them from the contributors listed above.

I think this is where many people fall short of what is truly made for them. You want to establish your standards in finding a mate? Be careful not to cloud your mind with images from movies, TV, novels, and magazines when setting your standards. If you do, there is a chance what you think is for you may be the opposite of what is meant for you.

What’s the solution? Make the Word of God your standard. The Word paints many pictures of relationships and how they were conducted…how households were run…how a man treats a woman…how a woman treats a man. A man protects and provides for a woman. A woman nourishes and encourages a man. I am no biblical scholar, but I don’t recall instances in the Bible where women were protecting and providing for the men. I say all of that to say this…allow the Word of God to provide insight on what your standards should truly be when searching for YOUR Mr. or Ms. Right.

It’s funny that one of my “key” original standards was completely tossed out the window once I allowed God to take part in establishing my standards in a mate. Back in the day I always said that I wouldn’t get serious with someone who had a child. What was society’s saying…”you don’t want a ready-made family”. That’s the standard that got tossed. I have a 17 year old stepson that I embraced over 9 years ago when I started dating my now wife of 8 years. I am thankful that I allowed my standards to be converted to God’s standards. Allowing this to happen gave me the person that I truly feel I am meant to be with.

Now I am not saying that all the standards people have are over the top or are too far below what they should be when looking for a mate. I just feel including God in setting the standard sets the situation up for better success.

What’s the standard? Pray for that individual blueprint/treasure map crafted just for you.

Love hard and love true. Let us know your thoughts.

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Cedric and Christel Wells

Cedric and Christel Wells

Cedric and Christel chose to join their lives together on March 6, 2004. Over these seven years, they have endured obstacles that many married couples go through…learning the hard/easy ways to grow and strengthen their bond.

1 Comment

  1. April 10, 2012 at 5:28 PM

    I absolutely agree! Most of our problems could be solved by putting Divine order back into our lives–love and otherwise! Bravo!