Marriage & Couplehood

The SAFE (My Security)

As I am sure all of you know, being married always has its ups and downs. The challenge is to always have more ups than downs. This most definitely gives you a better chance at having a long lasting marriage. One of the “ups” that should always be present is that of security.

Now the discussion of security within marriage can be dissected into many different areas … all depending on the point of view you are taking. For our discussion today, I want to look at it from two perspectives … female view and male view.

On the female side of this, security is all about physical safety … safety of the body, safety of the family, safety of the home. When a woman marries a man, there is an assurance that the husband is there and will be there to protect. He will be there to stand up against anything or anyone that threatens his wife. If for some reason the husband is not there (figuratively) to protect his wife, the comfort of security a wife needs can be severely damaged.

Guys, this is why we can’t half-step when we say “I DO”. I don’t want to take this into a deep religious discussion, but the Man upstairs is entrusting us to be the “head of household”, the “protector of family”, the “security blanket” for your wife. Step up and be “THE SAFE” you are called to be.

Now ladies, we husbands need you to be our SAFE also. What do we need protected? Our inner most thoughts and feelings … our dreams. You all know that we are not the best communicators when it comes to expressing our feelings. So the little we do shed out to you, please protect this information. Please respect this information. Please don’t discount this information. If for some reason the wife chooses to de-value our thoughts/feelings/dreams, you can potentially say goodbye to the husband confiding in the wife about certain things. There is the potential the husband will look for another confidant to run his thoughts/feelings/dreams by. Not the route we want things to go.

So ladies, receive the words from your husbands with patience, understanding, and love. Be “THE SAFE” so that he feels secure to tell you any and everything that’s on his mind.

Remember, the most secure place is a safe. Be ” THE SAFE “.

Love hard and love true. Let us know your thoughts.

 

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Cedric and Christel Wells

Cedric and Christel Wells

Cedric and Christel chose to join their lives together on March 6, 2004. Over these seven years, they have endured obstacles that many married couples go through…learning the hard/easy ways to grow and strengthen their bond.