Communication is key. That is the belief of this generation. In fact, communication is a major economic commodity. Being connected is so important that almost every new electronic device boasts about internet connectivity. It seems that reaching others and being reached is so important that blue tooth devices and handsfree electronics are essentials to today’s drivers to allow them to talk without the distraction of pressing buttons. Talking and providing individual input if even from afar at times may seem to be the solution to preventing and solving problems. Providing people with their proverbial “2 cents”, is the mantra of many. However in sustaining a relationship of love/marriage, knowing when to speak up and when to shut up can be the tie that binds or the thread that breaks the fabric of the relationship. Speaking up is relevant in that it allows both parties to verbally express feelings (good or bad). Speaking up can clear up misunderstandings and smooth over disagreements.
However, there are times when “speaking up” can be destructive. Those are the times to suppress the natural desire to speak. In other words, time to “shut up”. There are ways to know when it is time to not speak and remain in “the Shut up Zone”.
Words have power. When the question arises as to whether to speak up or shut up, examine value the words will place on the given situation. If the words will enhance and enlighten, speak up. If the words will destroy, remain quiet and visit “The Shut Up Zone” .