Sex & Magic

Why You Should Invest in Sexy Lingerie!

So it’s your anniversary, your Beloveds birthday, Valentine’s Day or some other special occasion and you’re shopping for the most fabulous piece of sexy lingerie you can find to help end your fantastic evening with a BIG Bang – no pun intended.

Stocking, stilettos, camis, babydolls, corsets and teddies help to provide an amazing erotic visual and go a long way in providing mental and visual stimulation for your partner BUT the purchase of a quality piece of lingerie should be just as much, if not more stimulating for you!

Victoria definitely knew and understood the power of the secret! In addition to being aesthetically pleasing, the power of lingerie extends far and beyond the mall and the bedroom. In addition to its principles of sensuality, wearing lingerie helps to enhance a woman in many other areas of her life: self-esteem, self-efficacy & confidence.

What we wear is often a direct reflection of who we are and how we feel about ourselves. The correlation between sensuality, sexuality, self-esteem and confidence and a fabulous piece of lingerie can serve as the link to bringing them all together. The type of lingerie a woman wears provides an outer expression of her inner sexuality. It says everything about you, your sexuality and how you project yourself. The more sexy the lingerie the more likely she is to exude a confident attitude about herself and her body and vice versa. This interconnectedness that is provided by wearing a beautiful piece of lingerie allows a woman to tap in to her feminine power to become the empowered women, feminine phenom, confident courtesan, sexy siren, vivacious vixen, beautiful bombshell or pin-up doll you so desire to be.

You don’t have to wait until that “special” occasion or until your lover is around to adorn yourself in sexy lingerie. Everyday is a special occasion in which you should celebrate yourself! And wearing lingerie should definitely be a part of that celebration! Stop lounging around the house all the time in baggy old sweats, over-sized tee shirts, flannel pajamas and big fluffy robes. Try putting on a nice piece of lingerie to lounge around in the house. Try wearing it under your power business suit; you’d be surprised at how much more powerful you actually feel. Stop wearing granny panties and that ratty old bra and allow lingerie to be your sexy little secret that keeps you feel good and motivated throughout the day. You’ll be amazed at how much more feminine, sexier, sensual and empowered you’ll feel; and this boost in your emotions will help to increase your overall feelings of self-love!

So the next time you’re out lingerie shopping keep in mind that your purchase is really for you. Take the time to select a haute couture piece that flatters your body type and speaks directly to you as if it were made specifically for you. In addition, consider the piece of lingerie i.e. corset, teddy, babydoll, the color, the material, the functionality and most importantly how you feel in it! The perfect piece of lingerie should make you feel like quintessential woman! Turn it in to a fun shopping trip with your girlfriends, or even go on your own! If you want to be really naughty invite your Beloved to accompany you and try on several pieces with the assistance of your Beloved and watch them melt with passion! And if you’re lucky invite them into the fitting room for a little “retail therapy!”

Finally once you’ve found the absolute perfect piece of lingerie and when you’re ready for your big reveal (if you’re Beloved wasn’t there when you purchased it) put it on and strut your stuff like the beautiful woman you are! Your Beloved will be so taking aback with your new found confidence, sensuality & sexuality that they will ravish you in love. And oh yeah, they’ll be just as impressed with the lingerie you’re wear too!


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TaMara Campbell

TaMara Campbell

TaMara has more than 18 years experience of coaching, speaking, writing and teaching about human sexuality and intimate relationships so there’s very little that she hasn’t heard about sex.


  1. Mocha
    August 4, 2011 at 11:27 PM

    I say this all the time!! Let today be that special day!! Time waits for no man/woman, I love sexy lingerie and sporty sassy nite wear as well. Thanks for bringing this to the forefront. Much appreciated.

  2. Joanna
    August 10, 2011 at 8:11 AM

    I think that when a man stops making compliments to his girlfriend or wife something is wrong. Usually buying a sexy lingerie can spice things up in your bedroom and this way the problem can be solved very easily. but a smart woman shouldn’t wait for that moment and invest in sexy lingerie very oftern