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Wives…Not Brides Wear The Tiara

Whether made of rhinestones or precious diamonds, a tiara symbolizes royalty. Many brides opt to or not to adorn their head with this stylish accessory. Regardless of their choice of style, every wife wears an invisible tiara as their new role of honor. I remember hearing a wise quote, saying that a man who finds a wife, actually finds something good. The last time I remember something being called good was when God made night and day. In essence, a woman is just as good as God creating the Earth. Now that’s powerful.

For some reason, there appears to be a clear disconnect with the bride and wife. It appears that many women are striving to be brides just to gain the wife title by default. Women spend more time and energy in becoming a figure only for one day rather than preparing to understand and fully function as a wife. She’s more concerned with looking good for one day than for planning how she will upkeep herself throughout the days of being married. But, the role of a wife is above all things – honor. It involves more than just standing next to her husband as a trophy. Her beauty is transcended through her labor. She doesn’t need MAC cosmetics to create her look, only to enhance it. To be called a wife means that you have been prepared. A wife has gone through the proper training to be able to protect and love her husband. She wears the crown. But this crown doesn’t only represent her royalty or beauty. It signifies her position in this union.

Whenever I think about our classic fairy tales, the wife’s function is watered down or underplayed. In reality, she plays a significant role. The power of a wife is to govern the house. I keep the peace in my household. I’m responsible for maintaining order. My husband must feel this when he enters his castle and heads the throne. A wife exerts grace and elegance beyond her clothes. She is a woman of respect. She is highly esteemed. She is a woman of virtue.

The tiara is only worn by wives. There’s a different aura that beams around the woman who has made a pledge before God and her witnesses to become one with her husband. She’s truly a priceless gem.

Excerpt from He’s not perfect. I’m not perfect. But together we’re… Picture Perfect (see links for author’s website below)

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Lakia Brandenburg

Lakia Brandenburg

Lakia is an accomplished writer and educator with a heart for love and relationships. She's written for Gospel Today and has freelanced for top national magazines such as Upscale. Creating a happily ever after story to be your reality.


  1. September 14, 2011 at 11:56 PM

    Oh I luv it Lakia! Tweeting and Sharing right now.

  2. September 15, 2011 at 5:33 PM

    Thanks Mairo!!! 🙂